Two years ago my mom passed away. This is my second Mother’s Day without my mom, and it is harder this year than last year. Something that always gets me through the tough patches in my life is sharing my experiences (and the life lessons I have learned). So I humbly come here to bring you some tips for Mother’s Day- from someone who lost her mother, and who has seen the effects of a mother who has lost her child.
In that last paragraph I lied, I’m not here to give you a list of tips. In fact, I am here to just teach you one lesson, one tip if you will. Buying your mom something nice is always great, but spending time with your mom, however you are able, is the best gift possible. Memories are so precious to us, often times we use objects as a way to recall memories when they have long passed us by. Spending time with your parents, especially your mom, will help you create new memories. Buy your mom flowers, but take her out to eat. Bake her a cake, but also spend the day with her. I can not tell you enough how much those memories will mean to you later in life. My Grandma (my mother’s mom) has bins of my mom’s things stored in her house that she still has not gone through. Not because it pains her to recall the memories attached to each item- but more because she realizes how many memories she had missed out on.
I know how hard it can be to make that time- mostly because we think it will always be there. Your mom knows how busy you are, and it makes the effort mean a lot more. Give her a call and talk to her on the phone for a while, ask about her life and what she does for fun. Take her out on an excursion that you know SHE will love. You could even just take her out to eat and send her a well thought out letter. I do have one little addition to this- which is to make this day as nice as possible for your mom. Moms come in all shapes, sizes, and types. Your mom might not have given birth to you, or maybe she recently came back into your life. Either way, whoever you consider mom is absolutely trying her best to be a mom to you. So, let the family drama rest for a day, and let the history be history. Mother’s day is the day to create a new memory.
Spend today getting to know your mom again- you will both be grateful you did.